Fact or Fiction?Friendships are complicated beasts. Some are low maintenance, others fall by the side as we move forward. Some are nested in a shared history or time, others are a spur of the moment affairs that carry on.
I've been thinking about my friends lately - this is the first Easter in a while that I haven't been home, and I've been thinking about how things have been going for them, and where I fit now I've been away from Dunedin for nearly five years.
The thing about the success of any any friendships; are that they remain unchanged together, or alternatively changed together. Capisce?
Example: If a low maintenance friendship changes to a high maintenance friendship - unless you want to up-size to a high maintenance friendship as well, then odds on the friendship will fail.
Sometimes friendships will change together with shared experiences, and others will fall into disrepair as people diverge on their own paths. The good news is that sometimes life will throw you a curve, and some old friends can be come new again.
The trick is to find the ones you really care about and try to make them work, even if it's just a little maintenance every now and again; because even a good friendship needs a tweak every once and awhile. Of course this only works if the other party feels the same way about you as well.
Just because you want it - doesn't always make it so.
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Someone once said "You can choose your friends but you can’t choose your family" And that's a very good thing. Imagine if you could give up on your family as easily as it is to give up on your friends. We've all had relationships in our lives that have flourished and then later wilted. Some `Friends' get downgraded to `colleagues'. Some of these relationships are born of convenience, others from a shared fate. We call these people we call friends for lack of a better word. A word that would define the true temporary, transitional nature of the relationship. There is only one true constant in the universe and that is change so it is inevitable that our lives will diverge at some point but real friendship, true friendship is to share a bond greater than the trappings and trials of our day to day lives. The best friendships, the ones that last require no work, no maintenance. Who is a true friend? Someone who you know in your heart, regardless of all the water under the bridge, will be there for you when you really need it. If you can say you have even one friend like that then you are truly blessed.
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