Some relationships are complex, some less so.It's interesting in a way; When those that surround your life embark on new journeys.
Relationships, Marriages, Families, Divorces - a perpetual cycle.
Well- hopefully not divorces.
Sometimes there's room for others outside this cycle of life, although more often than not people couple off and disappear into their newly discovered bliss. Children often come, and for a while friends can still be around, but reality often settles in with a second child; sometimes it's just too hard to dip your toe into the water of your old life - at least until the kids grow up.
Many people I see on findsomeone - complain about the same thing. They come home to New Zealand after an extended OE, only to find all their friends all coupled up with mortgages and families - no more late night parties, even a movie at night can be a stretch - especially if the kids are young, and sitters are hard to come by.
For those left outside, it's a long wait for the kids to grow up. In the meantime one can always jump on another "bus" with younger crowd yet to discover a significant other.
When you see it happening again; you know it's more or less over. The question often asked of ones self is "Do you have to get on the bus yourself, or if you don't - do you get left behind ?"
I believe the important thing is not to settle for something less than you know you want. To everyone who says "you're too fussy" - I ask "Did you take second best?". The response is always no - and I have to believe them.
We all have our chances in life -whether we take them or not, is another question. I used to think you shouldn't push an issue - on refection though - how much pushing could be construed as making your own luck?
Life is a tapestry of sorts; We have no way of seeing the completed article when we start. Some of us stumble along the way, and the design may change mid-stream; but it's our lives, and at the end a wonder to behold, regardless of the path travelled.
And it's not over yet.
4 comments:
But seriously... Are Bert and Ernie a couple??? And what's with that f#@king duck?
I'm sure there's more to the duck than meets the eye. I seem to recall Ernie's favourite song was "Rubber Ducky" - trouble brewing in paradise I think...
Please forgive my 'un-learned' colleague, he sometimes gets the better of me... Also, I apologise for the long winded nature of the following dissertation...
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I sense a certain romantic notion of "yet to be obtained domestic bliss" here. And speaking as, well frankly, exactly the person you describe in your post (father of 2, hard to get a sitter etc) I have to say you've hit the nail squarely on the head. That is to say, from the point of view of someone in your position looking at someone in mine. What you don’t know, what you fail to see is that the same frustrations exist on my side of the fence but, ironically, for exactly the opposite reasons.
"The grass is always greener..."
It's human nature to look at the other guy and think to yourself "man he's got it good, I want what he's got" but the reality is that everything good in this world comes at a price. The freedom you have [Yes you have freedom] is but a mere memory to those who have 'nested'. And they crave it - They want it back! They long for the days of old when they could say "F#@k it! Let's stay up all night!" But those days are gone. Alas, a parent’s responsibility isn’t an option it's their duty, and so it goes...
So... take your chances in life? Yes, for sure. Make your own luck? who can say? Those that push do get more but are generally reviled... The only real tragedy in this life is to give up on your dreams (even if you never fulfill them) Definitely don’t settle for second best but be as open as you can to opportunity, and f#@k the bus, be the bus driver, it's not over until you're six feet down!
Plus, definitely look into home brewing. It's cheap and very rewarding...
When did you get so f#^%ing wise dude?
Cant wait til I try some of your product - hopefully by June you'll be using eggwhites to fine your brew - and will have the whole process down to a "t".
And as for the grass being greener - although you may be entertain the concept in getting some grass - I'd doubt you'd leave your little cherubs for an instant - so I guess there's no point then - is there?
BTW Close game for the Highlanders tonight - pity tho.
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