tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665947.post995272646562259806..comments2023-03-28T22:18:26.963+13:00Comments on absolutely_100percent: ConsequencesMark Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09322306919563155381noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665947.post-68771891360028713382008-09-13T12:02:00.000+12:002008-09-13T12:02:00.000+12:00Thank you for the lovely comment. I'm sorry that y...Thank you for the lovely comment. <BR/>I'm sorry that you've been left with the remnants of someone else's burden for so long. While it's true that we often cause others pain, we have to learn to forgive ourselves eventually.<BR/>Men are crap at letting go - that's our fault; not yours.<BR/><BR/>By the way, I just wanted to say how well I thought you wrote. I hope you have a blog somewhere out there - you have a real talent. Come back again.Mark Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09322306919563155381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665947.post-27188531812952802962008-09-13T07:56:00.000+12:002008-09-13T07:56:00.000+12:00This blog entry touched me. It has taken me over ...This blog entry touched me. It has taken me over 20 years to figure out how much of my friend's suicide was my fault and how much it was just being 20. I wasn't faultless and have often wanted to follow him, but the next day I was walking on a street that was scented with pine needles after the rain and I sent the prayer "this is what you are missing. With or without me you could have had this precious moment".<BR/><BR/>I found you via my friend Fridaville, then Di Mackey.<BR/>You are all such bright lights and comfort for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665947.post-69441439922175837842008-09-12T17:22:00.000+12:002008-09-12T17:22:00.000+12:00I'm never sure why we sometimes get so caught up i...I'm never sure why we sometimes get so caught up in another person, and by doing so, make such bad decisions. Love has a lot to answer for, but I'm still looking regardless.Mark Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09322306919563155381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665947.post-23470733573275806822008-09-12T09:17:00.000+12:002008-09-12T09:17:00.000+12:00I lost a good friend to suicide a few year ago. Ov...I lost a good friend to suicide a few year ago. Over a woman and his lack of self worth, he was 46 so some things don't change over time. I always wonder if I had sent the text I was going to the weekend before whether he would still be here. I miss him, feel angry at him for the terrible waste.Jule's Short Storyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12842259958614855930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665947.post-6539105467842327792008-09-07T07:20:00.000+12:002008-09-07T07:20:00.000+12:00Beautifully written Mark and now thanks to you Deb...Beautifully written Mark and now thanks to you Debbie and Elliot's lives matter more as everyone who reads about their tragedy will feel compassion for Debbie's pain and for Elliot's sad and wasted lifeJaciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06554488191661645278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665947.post-90874743425115429532008-09-06T16:57:00.000+12:002008-09-06T16:57:00.000+12:00Elliot was a nice guy, but in my humble opinion De...Elliot was a nice guy, but in my humble opinion Debbie's world was were he wanted to be, and she was the ticket to him getting there - becoming a different person in the process. <BR/>When she left him the chasm between their worlds was perhaps too far to navigate. In the end he didn't even try. More likely he couldn't see himself ever getting there without her. <BR/>So - In the end it wasn't so much about Debbie - but his own lack of self esteem.Mark Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09322306919563155381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665947.post-24583307994158969962008-09-06T16:33:00.000+12:002008-09-06T16:33:00.000+12:00What a terrible thing. I often wonder how friends ...What a terrible thing. I often wonder how friends or family recover from a loved ones suicide. You are correct in saying it destroys more than one life. <BR/><BR/>But I hope to goodness someone doesn't take their own life 'over a girl'. Most pe.ople experience that paruticular loss/devastation and survive to tell the tale. I remember being so cut up over a boy I was sure I was doomed to eternal misery.<BR/><BR/>Yet it never once occurred to me to take my own life. <BR/><BR/>In many cases, there's more going on: depression, mental illness, who knows what. All an agnostic can think of to say is: god help them and those they leave behindAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com